What’s it really like growing up in a big family?
In this special Hernon kids takeover podcast, Mike and Alicia’s children gather around the mic to tell the honest, funny, and heartfelt story of their upbringing. From loud dinner tables and sibling fights to deep bonds, meaningful traditions, and moments of feeling unseen, the Hernon siblings share what shaped them—for better and for worse.
They talk openly about the challenges of a large family, how sibling relationships filled the gaps when parents were stretched thin, and why intentional traditions mattered more than perfection. Along the way, they relive unforgettable childhood stories (including melted crayons, camping disasters, and a legendary vomiting incident), reflect on personality differences, and offer wisdom for parents raising kids today.
This episode is a gift to parents wondering if they’re “doing enough”—and a reminder that love multiplies, even when life is messy.
Most of the siblings admitted they didn’t always love growing up in a large family—especially as teenagers. But looking back, they see how it built character, resilience, and lifelong relationships.
Several siblings shared moments when they felt overlooked or unseen. Yet the overwhelming takeaway was this: they knew they were loved, even when time and energy were limited.
In a big family, siblings often become secondary parents, confidants, and companions. Those relationships became one of the greatest gifts of their upbringing.
From Christmas breakfasts and dinner games to family retreats and service visits, traditions created a shared story and sense of belonging that lasted into adulthood.
Fighting, disagreements, and personality clashes were part of the family culture. Learning forgiveness, conflict resolution, and reconciliation turned those struggles into growth.
What stood out most wasn’t flawless parenting—but parents who cared, listened, showed interest, and tried to be present whenever possible.
How do sibling relationships function in your family right now? How might you help strengthen them?
How do you currently handle conflict in your home—and what might forgiveness look like more intentionally?
What kind of family culture do you hope your children will talk about someday?
Your decisions may not always be perfect, but you can choose to make them together.
In this week’s podcast, we dive into one of the most important truths for married couples: you will never make a perfect decision—but you can choose unity. Today’s culture urges us to optimize everything with hacks, experts, and AI, yet the real power in family life comes from spouses acting together. We share our own stories of big decisions—moves, career changes, even grad school—and how waiting for unity brought peace and strength to our home.
Join us as we unpack how to stay united: understanding each other’s processing style, praying together, deferring in love, and avoiding the trap of needing to win. Your decisions may never be perfect—but they can always be made together. Tune in and strengthen the unity that makes your family thrive!
“Hospitality and real community starts by inviting people into your messy home…”
In this episode, Mike and Alicia sit down with best-selling Catholic author Emily Stimpson Chapman to talk about Advent, Storybook for young Catholics, and the beauty of simple hospitality. Emily shares the real, lived rhythms of Advent in her home—reminding parents that peace and prayerfulness grow best when traditions are tied to everyday routines and kept flexible, not burdensome.
Emily also introduces her newest work, The Story of All Stories, a beautifully crafted children’s story Bible from Word on Fire that presents salvation history as one unified narrative. Although written for ages 7–13, it has already captivated teens, parents, and grandparents alike.
Finally, the conversation turns to hospitality—how ordinary families can open their homes joyfully, even amid noise, chaos, and little ones. Emily offers practical tips, simple meal ideas, and a vision for welcoming others that prioritizes connection over perfection.
Advent traditions work best when tied to existing family routines—like dinner—rather than starting from scratch.
Flexibility in traditions preserves peace and allows your family to embrace the joy of the season without stress.
Hospitality doesn’t require perfection—simple meals and genuine presence build true community.
Opening your home combats loneliness and helps families live their mission together.
What Advent traditions have been life-giving for our family—and which ones cause unnecessary stress?
How could we anchor Advent prayer or traditions more naturally into our existing daily routine?
In what ways do we tell the story of salvation to our children? Is there room to deepen our approach?
When we think about hospitality, what holds us back most—perfectionism, time, or fear?
Who is one person or family we could invite over in the next two weeks for a simple, joy-filled meal?
“Learning how to trust God and let go of our fears, worries, and frustrations is the best way to model peace for our children.”
— Dr. Gregory Bottaro
This week on the Messy Family Podcast, we are joined by Dr. Greg Bottaro for a heartfelt and practical conversation every parent needs to hear. In this interview, Dr. Greg explains why kids are not naturally built to listen and why so many of us parents end up frustrated. His solution is simple and hopeful. Get clear on the rulebook you grew up with, compare it with your spouse’s, and build a shared one that gives your children a steady sense of security. We talk about unity in marriage, how it shapes a child’s emotional world, and why kids feel safest when mom and dad stand together. Dr. Gregg also breaks down attachment parenting, pointing out what helps, what stresses families, and why connection between parents matters more than perfect technique. Listen in to get tools for handling anxiety and staying grounded. You will walk away encouraged, supported, and ready to grow as a family (we were!).
Children are not naturally built to listen
Their brains are still developing, so parents need realistic expectations and a shared rulebook to guide family life with consistency.
Parental unity creates a child’s secure base
A cohesive marriage provides emotional safety. When parents stand together, children regulate better, feel protected, and thrive.
Attachment parenting works best when parents are connected to each other
The focus should not be on perfect techniques, but on calm, present, regulated parents who work as a team.
Faith and community strengthen parenting
Trust in divine providence and a grounded spiritual life help parents grow in emotional maturity.
Catholic mindfulness reduces anxiety
Mindful presence, paired with trust in God, reshapes anxious brain patterns. Even a few minutes a day can improve decision making, calm fears about parenting, and support healthier family relationships.
What were our "rulebooks" from our families when we were growing up? How can we create our own rulebook for our family?
When do we feel most united in our parenting? When do we feel most divided?