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Jul 15, 2024

Play is the work of childhood. 

Summary

It seems like in today’s world, parents are judged by how many activities their kids are in and how committed the whole family is to those activities.  We see this as leading to complete burnout for parents, but more importantly, it robs children of the joy of unsupervised, spontaneous time to just play.  We explain in this podcast what play is and why it is so important for children to engage in. The beautiful thing about play is that parents should NOT be involved!  It is one thing that we can do for our kids that requires less of us, not more.  Parents need to learn that kids must take risks, make choices, and be independent from adults.  And this means less supervision, not more.  Listen in to this conversation where we try to strike a balance between keeping kids busy in a healthy way and giving them space to be bored and make good choices.  

 

Key Takeaways

  • Play is essential for a child’s development. It is “freely chosen and directed by the participants and undertaken for its own sake, not to achieve something” - Dr. Peter Gray

  • You need to be intentional about choosing your child’s activities based on their developmental needs. 

  • Kids under 12 really don’t need structured activities - only do them if they work for your lifestyle and are not a cause of stress in the family

  • Don’t allow external forces to impose false expectations on your involvement.  

  • Encourage your child to persevere even if an activity is difficult or not what they expected, but have the common sense to know when enough is enough.

  • Know the adults that are around your child recognizing that especially in the teen years these people can become mentors for them for good or for bad. 

 

Couple Discussion Questions

  • Share with your spouse your experience with structured activities (sports, theater, lessons, etc).  What would you like to repeat? What would you like to avoid?

  • What activities are our children involved in?  Are they developmentally appropriate for them? 

  • How can we encourage more play among our children?  Are there other families who would join us in this? 

 

Resources:

Play Deprivation Is A Major Cause of the Teen Mental Health Crisis

By JON HAIDT AND PETER GRAY

https://www.afterbabel.com?utm_source=navbar&utm_medium=web

 

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